Kevin Hart and his wife Eniko Parrish just celebrated a major milestone. Ten years of marriage, 17 years together. But instead of the usual glossy anniversary post, Eniko got real. Real real. “Our journey isn’t perfect but it’s OURS,” she wrote on Instagram. Considering this couple has survived a very public cheating scandal, the pressures of Hollywood, and the challenge of blending two families, those words carry some serious weight.

Kevin matched her energy with his own tribute, calling their decade together “10yrs of unbelievable memories” and declaring he wouldn’t have it any other way. The two share son Kenzo and daughter Kaori, while Kevin also co-parents older kids Heaven and Hendrix with ex-wife Torrei. It’s a full, complicated, beautiful family picture. And it’s one they’ve built by being honest about the hard parts.

There’s something universally relatable about what Eniko said. Most of us know that real relationships aren’t fairy tales. They’re messy, they take work, and they require choosing each other on the days it doesn’t come easy. Seeing a celebrity couple admit that openly is rare and honestly, kind of refreshing. So what do you think? Is “not perfect but it’s ours” the healthiest approach to love, or should we all be holding out for something closer to flawless? Drop your take in the comments.

Image courtesy of Eniko Hart/Instagram